Main Character Syndrome

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Randy Black:
Randy Unscripted. I’m your host, Randy Black, and this is the podcast where

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I talk about whatever thoughts come across my brain whenever they happen to do so.

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You know, one of the strangest things about modern culture is how people no

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longer simply live their lives.

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They present their lives. Everything becomes content.

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Every meal, every opinion, every emotional moment, every accomplishment,

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every inconvenience, they’re all documented, curated, uploaded, shared.

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And honestly, after a while, you begin to notice something deeper happening underneath all of that.

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More and more people seem to

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view life almost like a movie, and they see themselves as the star of it.

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Now, technically, psychologists will tell you main character syndrome is not

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an actual medical diagnosis.

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But culturally, people immediately understand what it means.

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Because we all know exactly what this looks like.

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And today, I want to talk about why this mindset has exploded.

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Why social media seems to amplify it,

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and why endless self-focus is leaving so many people anxious and emotionally exhausted,

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and why I believe scripture diagnosed this problem long before Instagram or TikTok ever existed.

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So while I was thinking about this and researching the idea,

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I came across a clip from Pastor Greg Laurie.

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Greg Laurie is the founder of the Harvest Christian Fellowship.

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He’s a longtime evangelist.

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And I heard this clip on the podcast, We Get to Do This, hosted by Adam Curry

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and Pastor Jimmy Pruitt.

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And honestly, the more I listened to it, the more I realized that this conversation

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goes way, way beyond social media habits. It really gets down to the question

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of who sets at the center of our lives.

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Greg Laurie:
You know, it seems like we’re a culture completely obsessed with ourselves.

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The Bible tells us one of the signs of the last days would be people would love themselves.

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I mean, isn’t that what you see in social media, the very platform I’m on right

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now? spend five minutes on TikTok or Instagram, and you see people chronicling

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every event of their life. Here’s what I had for breakfast.

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Here’s my latte in the afternoon. Here’s my new outfit.

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A complete obsession with self. Do you know that they’ve come up with actually a name for this?

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It’s called main character syndrome.

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That line there really captures where we are culturally. A culture completely

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obsessed with ourselves.

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And honestly, it’s hard to argue with that because the modern culture we live

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in constantly encourages people to elevate self above everything else.

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Promote yourself. Protect yourself.

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Express yourself. Build your platform. Grow your audience. Become your own brand.

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And on the surface, some of that sounds a little harmless.

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Confidence isn’t bad. Purpose, it isn’t bad either.

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Having goals, definitely not bad. But there’s a difference between recognizing

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your worth and believing that the universe revolves around you.

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And that’s where things begin to unravel.

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Because increasingly, people don’t just experience moments anymore. They narrate them.

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They frame them. They package them.

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They edit themselves in real time, and social media platforms reward this behavior constantly.

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Attention becomes currency.

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Validation becomes addictive.

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Identity becomes performative. And eventually, people stop asking, is this good?

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Is this meaningful? Is this wise?

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And instead, they start asking, will this get attention?

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Man, that’s a dangerous shift. Because once life becomes performance,

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you slowly stop living authentically.

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You start living for an audience.

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Greg Laurie:
And so the idea is, my life is a movie, I’m the star of my own movie,

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and everybody else is a supporting actor.

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That may honestly be the clearest explanation of main character syndrome I’ve

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heard and found. My life is a movie.

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I’m the star. and everybody else is supporting cast.

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And once you start looking for this mindset, you start to see it everywhere.

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People increasingly relate to others, not as neighbors, not as fellow human

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beings, but as audiences.

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Even conversations feel different now. People aren’t always listening.

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Sometimes they’re just waiting for their turn to speak, waiting to redirect

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attention back towards themselves. and, and social media, man,

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it amplifies this constantly.

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Algorithms, they reward outrage, drama, performance, attention-seeking behavior.

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Quiet humility rarely ever trends.

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Faithfulness usually doesn’t go viral.

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Serving others quietly doesn’t attract millions of views, but spectacle does.

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And over time, that shapes people emotionally and spiritually because eventually

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the pressure to maintain an image becomes exhausting.

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Trying to constantly present the idealized version of yourself,

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the polished version, the filtered version, man, that wears people down.

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Greg Laurie:
How did we get to this place? I think we built this. You could trace it back

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to the 80s and 90s, where instead of correcting children, we felt we should

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constantly be affirming them, you know,

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helicopter parenting, as it’s called, giving participation trophies away.

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Everyone’s a winner. And this kind of mentality morphed into a complete obsession with self.

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And it culminated with the selfie, It’s the most popular kind of photography out there right now.

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Randy Black:
Now, whether you agree with every part of Greg Laurie’s cultural analysis there

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or not, I do think he identifies something that is absolutely extremely important.

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We created a culture heavily centered around affirmation, self-focus, and image.

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And technology, man, it has accelerated all of it, especially social media.

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Because platforms built around likes and follows, comments, and attention,

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they naturally train people to think about themselves constantly.

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It’s not just who am I, but it’s how am I perceived? Man, that’s different.

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And after a while, people can begin living almost entirely through external validation.

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They’re curating themselves. They’re branding themselves. They’re managing perception constantly.

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And honestly, maintaining a public version of yourself all the time,

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man, that becomes exhausting. especially when real life never fully matches

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that curated version online.

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And that’s where this next point Greg Laurie makes becomes really, really important.

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So where did that get us? Studies show that despite being the most affirmed generation in history,

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Gen Z reports the highest rates of anxiety, loneliness, and depression ever

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recorded of any generation.

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That statement should really make people stop and think.

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The most affirmed generation in history, and yet also one of the most anxious.

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Man, that tells us something. Because we were told if people expressed themselves

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more, if they affirmed themselves more, if they focused on themselves more,

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they would finally become fulfilled.

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But that’s not what happened. Instead, many people became trapped in a comparison culture.

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They’re constantly measuring themselves against everybody else online,

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comparing their real life to everybody else’s curated presentation.

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And that comparison, man, it never ends. Because online, nobody uploads ordinary life.

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Nobody uploads the boredom, failure, loneliness, insecurity.

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People upload highlight reels, and eventually many people begin feeling like

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they themselves are somehow falling behind.

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And eventually, many people begin feeling like they themselves are somehow falling

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behind, even while constantly broadcasting their own lives.

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And I think underneath all of this, ultimately, it’s a spiritual problem.

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Because human beings were never designed to worship themselves.

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Self-worship always collapses eventually. Because if your identity depends on

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applause, you could never, never truly rest.

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You always need more validation, more attention,

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more reassurance, and eventually even affirmation stops satisfying,

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which is why I think Greg Laurie says what he says next is so important,

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because Jesus addressed this issue long before social media ever existed.

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Greg Laurie:
Listen, Jesus dealt with this 2,000 years ago, before there were social media

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platforms like Instagram or TikTok or X or any of the others.

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He said, if any man wants to follow me, let him take up his cross and follow.

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Whoever will seek to save his

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life will lose it. And if you lose your life for my sake, you’ll find it.

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Randy Black:
That is such a radically different message from our modern culture because our

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modern culture says, follow your heart, build your platform,

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create your truth, be the center of your own story.

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But Jesus says, deny yourself, take up your cross, follow me.

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Man, that is completely opposite from the message our culture constantly pushes.

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And honestly, I think that’s one reason that so many people are emotionally exhausted today.

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Because self-centered living sounds empowering at first,

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but eventually becomes emotionally crushing.

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You were never designed to carry the burden of being your own God.

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You were never designed to build your identity entirely around public validation.

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And maybe, just maybe that’s why so many people feel trapped inside the performance.

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Because eventually, performing becomes exhausting.

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But Greg Laurie makes one more point here that really brings the conversation together.

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Greg Laurie:
To lose your life means to recognize God’s plan for you is better than your plan for yourself.

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Stop being so obsessed with self.

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That may be one of the hardest truths for our modern culture to accept.

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That God’s plan for our lives may actually be better than the plans we create

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for ourselves. Because our modern culture teaches people to build identity entirely

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around self-fulfillment.

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But Christianity, man, we teach surrender.

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And then Greg Laurie says this.

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Lose the main character syndrome mentality and realize that the main character is Christ.

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The main character is Christ.

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Honestly, that may be one of the most countercultural statements a person could make in 2026.

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Because everything around us constantly pushes people towards self-exaltation.

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Build yourself. Promote yourself. Curate yourself.

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Center everything around yourself.

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Christianity says peace is not found by making yourself the center of existence.

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Peace is found in surrendering yourself to the one who actually is.

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And strangely enough, that realization, that.

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It’s freeing because suddenly you no longer have to constantly perform.

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You no longer have to turn every moment into content.

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You no longer have to live your life chasing validation from strangers online.

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You can simply live faithfully, quietly, honestly, humbly.

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You can care more about truth than about attention.

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More about character than about image. More about serving than being seen.

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And maybe one of the healthiest things people can do today is to stop obsessing

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over how life appears and to start focusing on whether life is meaningful.

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Because ultimately, at the end of the day, attention is not the same thing as purpose.

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Applause is not the

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same thing as peace and self-worship

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will never ever satisfy

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the human soul only god can do that luke chapter 9 verse 23 tells us if any

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man will come after me let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.

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Randy Black:
I’m Randy Black, and this has been Randy Unscripted.